How to start healing yourself

I started my before you manifest site because I learned in order to start manifesting, I have to work on myself. My own limitations blocked myself through out my life from doing things I shouldn’t be afraid to do. My own mind and negative thoughts started from some point in my life and it is up to me to change those thoughts. It is up to me to bring myself to a better point in life. I deserve better. We all deserve better!

I know there are other people out there healing themselves and I want to give back and show others that they are not alone. Remove any thought that limits you from doing your very best in life. We are all capable and creative. We all have intuition that will guide us. Your intuition, your inner voice will say, “I had enough of this kind of life. I am tired of these thoughts.” That should alert you to do something about it.

Become aware of our thoughts

A lot of us operate on auto mode. We go about our busy life and push through the day to get back home to our families. Or for those that are working from home, pushing through to finish work and do something fun. Throughout the day, listen to your thoughts and how you think.

You can be thinking negatively. If you had a meeting that didn’t go well, you will think about it all day because it affects you. It stays on your mind. Learn to be aware of that and shift your focus to something else so, this doesn’t continue to stay on you.

Override negative self talk

We all think it. “I am not good enough. ” “I am not making enough.” “I am ugly.” We all have this inner self talk that is NOT good for us. I lived with this for years. All it did was made me angry. Angry for feeling those things. I believed I was those thoughts I thought about.

Break out of it by shifting your thoughts. Think positive. “I am enough.” “I am going to get a raise.” “I will have opportunities.” “I will find a better job.” “I am loved.”

If you fight yourself in thinking positively, change the wording. For example, a negative thought: I am not loveable. Positive: What if I am loveable?

This can help you shift out of the negative easier.

Most importantly, if it is a recurring issue or trigger. It is best to kick it in the butt and work on it. Eliminate this recurring negative thought. If you can’t eliminate it, minimize it’s power on you. If you have self image issues, it is a tough process but, face yourself. Ignore anyone else. If you feel jealous of another person for whatever reason, acknowledge and then think, “Self. Why am I jealous? She has pretty hair? She looks better than me?”

Then shift your thoughts.

Start taking action. Work on those recurring thoughts. If you have more than one trigger. Work on one at a time because you may have to work on a part of yourself longer. Be a bystander in your thoughts. Let the thoughts pass. (Acknowledging your thoughts help you see what is going on with yourself.)

Then, journal it.

Write down phrases or a sentence if you do not prefer to write a novel. Phrases that will remind you of a trigger. For example, a short phrase like: a mean boss and covering for a lazy coworker. A short sentence such as “Jealous looking at couples (if you are single). “What does she have that I don’t?”

Phrases that will help you remember your thought and then later process it. When you have the time, then you can write a long novel and dissect your thoughts.

Journal prompts

If you want to try something different and step outside of your thoughts, try journal prompts. There are so many prompts you can search on self-discovery, shadow work or inner child work. Think of it as a self interview.

Practice Gratitude

With your journal. Write down 3 things you are grateful for at the end of your day. This practice helps you shift your focus on the more important things. Gratitude helps you become aware of your present moment. So, you come out of your thoughts.

Expanding with motivational material

Always keep growing by reading, listening to podcasts that interests you, inspiring videos from youtubers already talking about the subjects you are interested in. Learn from those that have achieved the goals you are looking to achieve. They will likely provide insights and inspiration. Be inspired to be better. It will guide you out of your negative loop. Let’s not stay in there. You have so much to accomplish. Listening to that loop will keep you from achieving anything. Negativity keeps you in a unmotivated mode.

A Morning routine

You do not have to have a crazy morning ritual although there are books stating how this impacts lives immensely. You can just wake up one hour before you start getting ready for work. Use this hour to journal, listen to a podcast. Watch a movie if you feel like it. However, I stress reflection. If you have a busy life, you may have only limited time to yourself. Use a morning ritual to be in tune with yourself.

Your self reflection during a morning walk or a run can lead to something that inspires you or motivates you throughout the day. Or maybe it will motivate you to face something in your life. Facing our dark selves is not an easy task. It does get better the more you face things head on. Meet your dark self and face him or her. The sooner, you do it the sooner you will feel, you should’ve done it long ago.


It helps you stay focused. It helps with tuning into yourself. If you have wandering thoughts, the more you practice the easier it gets. This focusing will help you with your self reflection.


Be kind to yourself.

Facing certain issues in your life is harder than others. Do not push it or rush it. Take your time. Be gentle and work on it little by little. Within time, things will feel better.

When you are going through these rough issues, you will want to isolate yourself from people. Do what you have to do to get through it. You come out a different you. When you are ready, you will reach out to people again. Explain to people you need time to yourself. If they do not understand it, then reconsider the relationship.

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