to leave my boss. I quit this morning. This is the second job I quit abruptly within the last 50 days.
The boss gave me some creepy vibes here and there and I worked alone with him so it made me uncomfortable when we were alone. He acts like the sweetest man in the world but when you look past it, something was off. His mind was disorganized and lacked focus. Its hard to work for someone like that because it makes you think “well, whats the point of me working here?”. He had subtle sadistic behavior which I didnt understand.
The hours were good but he didnt respect my work/life balance. He kept pushing me to do more hours when its not even busy. It made no sense to me. I think I knew this was too good to be true! The boss hired me out of desperation and I took the job out of desperation! This was my mistake! This is where I went wrong.
This is going to sound more like self- blame but I always end up with the same kind of people. “Nice people” with a secret agenda that makes no sense to anyone else but themselves. I am a nice person. Yet, I end up with these people seeking drama when there is no drama.
As it is said, “Like attracts like.” So, I guess here desperation seeks desperation? Two jobs that didn’t fit me in some way but I wanted to make it fit so I can have some income.
I spoke about this with my family. They told me I didnt set a boundary so my boss felt like he was able to push my buttons. That is sick. He apparently does this with everyone else because I am the third front desk person this year. So, its definitely not me being sensitive! Something is off! Thank God I quit before things can get worse.
Sometimes, listening to the inner self will give you answers. The ego will say, “hey this is great you have a job. Yes money!” On the other hand, your instincts will tell you, “run”. Some things are red flags!
It’s tough right now for me but, I will hang in there.
This is more of a rant than a post. Thanks for listening.
Now back to manifesting!
P.S. I still have to go back for my pay. Oh boy. I do not want to deal but maybe my lesson is confront my obstacles.
6pm edit- Most updated——–
Out of my own laziness I sort of became vague in this post about why I quit my job. I should start from the beginning. Here is a back story before I start talking about the current position I left this morning.
Starting back in 2020– I have been consistently in jobs for a long time until Covid. I didn’t have a professional career job but I held a position as front desk. I was actually good at it but my employer didn’t feel the need to keep me. Since then, I have struggled to look for jobs. Mostly because of shut downs and lack of positions since business have been lacking for a year. I had the pleasure of working retail which was a second job I kept since I lost my office position. It was a good back up plan for income.
My retail position was great but business was doing bad at the location I was working in so, I decided to transfer to a different store location. I tested it out and worked some hours. The manager who handled my scheduling was wonderful to work with and things was going smoothly until after I transferred into the store. A change in the store happened. I dislike changes at times because changes in management usually means bad. The manager that handled my scheduling was promoted to a different store. Instead it was up to a different manager to handle my work schedule and that’s when things got bad. Another one of the managers I worked with(there were many managers to help manage the many shifts in the store) who was very nice to me at the beginning started to become demanding and ignored my schedule needs. She started forcing me to work extra hours I didn’t want and tried to manipulate me by insisting and saying, “the store manager says you have to work this shift”.
First of all, if I am not comfortable with it I do not have to take a shift! I am employed with the store but that doesn’t make me a slave to the store! I am not obligated to work hours I do not want to work. That got me so worked up.
This store I transferred into was extremely busy. Lines at the register went all the way to the back of the store. It was nonstop and when it did stop, you wanted a few minutes to recover if you were allowed to. Cashiering can tire the crap out of you! Anyway, I understand why they had to demand more hours out of me but, the way the store exhausted me, I didn’t feel comfortable working so much. I would get so sore from just cashiering alone that I would come into work with body aches and pains. Breaks are way too short. You pick up your food and then only 10 minutes left to eat it. And people like to talk in the break room so that means even less time to enjoy your food! Again, I changed the subject. So, I understand the demands of the store. But, Just hire extra help! There are plenty of people looking for work! I almost had a breakdown because I was so overworked. And the demand to work more just brought me to a boiling point. So, I became a no-show on my next shift. I couldn’t do it anymore! That was October 2020.
This year- 2021-I didn’t find employment again until September. It was another retail position.
This one too, training was great. Actually, this was an old company I used to work pharmacy tech for. I came back to it thinking I did a great thing for me. I was so wrong!
After training, my boss tells me she’s going on vacation. When a pharmacy manager goes on vacation, things go to hell!!!!!! The company brought horrible substitute pharmacists who couldn’t keep up with the demands of the store and the tech gets all the bullshit for this lack. The Pharmacist finalizes all the prescriptions, do all the immunizations, mixing immunizations and answers phones. Our screen had never ending pages of 50 prescriptions per page that had to be filled and checked. Pharmacist can only finalize them. The Techs can only prep them for checking. When the pharmacist is too slow, then prescriptions are backed up, immunizations are backed up, and all. Patients get angry and they do not understand the craziness we endure behind the scenes. They just see us as incompetent. I can move quickly because I am used to it from working with this company before. However, after so many years, the company has put in so many precautionary steps that it takes 10 minutes to prep 1 prescription. And when you have a slow pharmacist who can’t check fast enough fearing they will make a mistake, it’s worse!!!! I almost died figuratively at this job! And the scheduling was uneven. We were short staffed and I had a slow substitute pharmacist who couldn’t help me. He could barely help himself! I had to deal with the difficulty with working alone at rush hour when all the customers come to pick up their medications. I had to operate register, fill scripts and help customers check in for their immunizations alone. It was painful doing it by yourself and I was relearning the company as I do this. The lines went back towards the front of the store. it was so long and I had two long lines. I had to run back and forth the lines to be fair to everyone waiting. Each customer needed extra time to work out some things with their medicines. OF course it wasnt a quick pick up, pay and done deal. Alot of same day medicines werent checked. I had to go to the pharmacist to check them one by one after I fill them. I had to leave people to wait for me while I complete a fill. You need one person to fill, one person at register and one person to type at all times. It is such a process at pharmacy. It was painful especially alone. Plus this company wanted me to become certified as a tech plus certified to help with immunizations!!! Hell to the no!!!!!! At minimum wage? The lack of respect at this job!
Then unexpectedly, my mother became ill. That drew another boiling point for me! I couldn’t do it. To make it worse, when I explained it to my boss all I got was, “it won’t be bad anymore I am back. ” No, what I went through and the pressure to study for this PTCB exam was too much. Am I lazy? I dont care what anyone thinks! I work my ass off and got no respect for it. Especially the customers. All they see is we are doing nothing. We are just staring at computer screens. They dont know what we deal with on those screens. Another painful thing we deal with. I also have school that I just started to worry about. And the constant staying late to help with the business because it gets crazy during rush hour times, wow, no work life balance. My first Sunday working, I didn’t even get to go on my 30-min break because the substitute pharmacist couldn’t do much. He’s an older gentlemen so I get it. He is like 80 years old so you can’t blame him. An older pharmacist can’t keep up with the crazy demands of a high volume pharmacy job! And we are not allowed to discuss this with the public so, we have to keep it to ourselves! My blood pressure is rising as I recount my experience at the pharmacy! I’m so glad I quit. I don’t care what anyone says!!!! My mental health and my physical health is important. That job broke me down many times!!!! I would cry myself to sleep. My blood pressure rose to 140/95 with headaches on the days I worked and low blood sugar levels from lack of eating. My adrenaline kept me going. I beared with it for 2 weeks and dropped it like hot cakes! NO THANKS!!!! No more pharmacy job for me!
October 18th- I got a call for a job I applied for on indeed. It was for a front desk position. I was glad. Things sounded too good though. The office operated Monday, Wednesday, and Fridays with one hour lunch. I went into the interview. The boss was by himself. No staff. That should’ve been my red flag but I thought, it is Covid, maybe people just left.
The interview seems well. The employer was easy going. He was a bit weird. He talked me to death and had a childlike speech at moments. That was a bit off. He is a 50-60 year old man with some childlike behavior. Like some weird slapstick behavior. I am a serious person so this slapstick doesn’t appeal to me. But I laughed anyway. He talks me to death and goes off tangent. We don’t even discuss the job at some point. I just sat there like, “wow this man can really talk!” He kept going. He didn’t even need to take a breathe! That should’ve been a red flag. Why do you talk so much? And the lack of focus on the interview. He finally got to the point after two hours of talking about his field. My interview was at 10:30 in the morning and then it became 12:00. He asked for references. I told him I have to get back to him about that. Then out of the blue he goes, “do you have time to work until 7? ” That should have been a red flag!
Out of desperation, what do I do? I stay and worked until 7. I barely had a lunch break because he talks so much he taught me very little. The talking just took the whole day! He taught me the basics and I worked from there. My brain was telling me to go home. But my ego was telling me to stay and work. Make money! This seems like an easy job. I loved the hours. Three days only and I can do my own stuff with this job. It wasn’t very busy.
As I worked more days I noticed he didn’t ask me to fill out employment papers. W4 and I9 were no filled out. Instead he took my social and logged it into his iPhone and my address. Another red flag.
He gets distracted easily so I had to constantly remind him to show me something. Or I had to remind him to eat his lunch. I ended up babysitting him a little bit because he’s so disorganized in thought. And I don’t know maybe some memory problems. After he taught me something he acted like I was a pro and he forgot his own knowledge. He would explain something else that made no sense! You just taught it to me correctly!! How did you forget it? His behavior is very ADD/ADHD which is a red flag to me. If you don’t know how to organize your own company I am not sure how I can help you here! I cant do billing statements if your stuff is not organized. He gave me stuff from 2020 which should’ve been done already. If he has papers I would explain what they are but he would keep them near him and focus on them again. His attention span was short. He would refocus on the same thing and can’t move on. There should be more stuff for me to look through but he said he has to look for them. What? Paperwork is easy. If it’s been checked and verified, check it off and move on. But he doesn’t do that. He will go over it and over it and leave it around and look at it again. He can’t focus on one thing at a time. He would lose focus and move on to something else. He can’t complete a task unless you remind him to do something. It’s like when you say it then he can do it once you say what needs to be done. I am a horrible person with describing these behaviors. This is the best way for me to describe. This behavior or brain pattern makes it hard for me to work. How can I work with a disorganized boss? Then he would subtly use sadistic behavior to taunt me that I’m single. He would point out everyone that comes in that they are getting married. He would mention his wife all the time. Okay? There were weird subtle behavior that had no meaning to me but the fact that it was subtle but repeated! I took notice! At moments, he would try to manipulate me with his constant talking by asking If I can work more hours! It’s not busy. In addition, I explained in the interview that I can only do three days only. I told him his schedule is perfect which is why I went into the interview. I can get these things done during the time I am here. I can’t answer phones but I can handle the other stuff he needed to get done. FYI- after getting them done I found out it was pointless. I was upset. He’s so disorganized he doesn’t know what is done and what is not. He has no control over his company. I overheard him talk smack about me with a client over something silly. I was busy on the phone calling a company about some paperwork and the phone rang. I’m not going to pick it up. I am currently doing something. The company is complicated to deal with so I had to brace myself and not lose my cool! Anyhow, he got annoyed and I heard him say something in anger with the client about me. That was uncalled for. And then he proceeded to yell out something I had to do for his client. That was very uncalled for. You see I am on the phone! Red flag.
Doing all this calmly was hard.
He even pointed it out to me many times, “you are very calm.” He found that funny and tried to push my buttons. Another red flag. That line he repeated it a few times on other days. He would repeat his lines to me. It was creepy. Even asking me to work more hours constantly. It’s almost as if his memory was not good. Either that or he was finding ways to push my buttons for kicks. Its childish behavior. “If I do this 50 times will get annoyed?” How old are you? Also, why would you lose your cool at a job? You are expected to be professional. I stated that and he found that funny. Whoa! Weirdness. His personality would become off at moments.
Each work day he kept asking can you work tomorrow? What would I be doing? He had nothing to give me to work. He said, “I can find you something to work on.” WTF! Seriously, WTF!!!! I was trying hard not to lose it. It made no sense!
I calmly said no to working another day. To come in and do something I can do in 5 minutes. How do you run a company and you don’t know what the hell you are doing? Thirty five years running the company I was told!
He would make weird remarks that I disregarded. It was almost as if he was trying hard to get a reaction out of me. He asked me to clean out the desk I wanted to work on. “This place needs a womens touch”. Why cant your wife do it? Remarks like this sounded my internal alarm. Hes super personable and then all of a sudden I get this.
He is also very smallminded. Asked me questions like is Korean the same as Chinese? WTF? No, is French the same as Spanish? NO!
Explaining things to him was hard for him to grasp. I ended up giving up. I repeated myself 5 times and he still couldn’t grasp what I said. So I gave up. It was closing time this past Wednesdsy night and I was ready to run out. He used his body to block me from walking out until I explain to him what he needed to know. I was very furious at that point. I was ready to explode! I had a long day. I want to go home. And explaining something to him was no point. I explained, “it’s closing time and it’s time for me to go home.” Nope! So, I stayed longer just to explain my point to him about 2-3 more times. To be honest, I think he just wanted to chat. When he was satisfied, he would calm down. What he does is that he would chat and then after a while he would interrupt me and say, “go home”.
This moment made my decision to quit! That’s creepy! I’m a short little person! He’s a 5foot 9 300 lbs man. He blocked me from exiting my desk to leave the office until I explained something basic to him a couple more times! That got me so worked up! I am worked up again as I explain my story here. No way! I am alone working with him so that made me uncomfortable.
This morning was supposed to be payday. I texted him I wasnt coming in. I didn’t feel like explaining to him I was quitting in front of his clients. He has appointments all day. I also need to give him back my keys.
He wanted to discuss why I was quitting. ” I thought we were going to have this wonderful relationship.” Creepy ass man.
That moment that happened Wednesday night , really creeped me out. I don’t know if I want to return for my paycheck. Am I being too paranoid? I may send his key back by post mail to avoid going to the office. He does these things subtly. He finds it funny. He’s a large man and I’m a short little female. I do not find that funny! I do not have defense lessons, haha!
A sweet person with subtle toxic behaviors shining through. Hmm.
On Wednesday- a representative from a company that comes in every now and then, came in for a while. I had some alone time with him and he explained to me that I am the third front desk person this year. That doesn’t sound good!
That’s all so upsetting. The job is great. I didn’t want to leave the job. I love the hours. Three days minus the annoying daily question of, “can you work extra? What about working from home?”
I got good at the job quickly because I worked front desk before. But dealing with the boss is a pain in the arse! He talks too much! At moments, I looked at him, “are you ever going to stop?”. I have to start moving away otherwise he will not stop. I like to be left alone to focus on my job. He would creep up to me and talk. I don’t want to talk. I want to finish my work and go home. I can talk for a while but this man wants to never stop talking. He can go on for hours! OMG. I’ve never met a boss like this before! I don’t know how to handle someone like him! I’ve worked for professional doctors. He is one of a kind in a freaky way.
In the morning, He would call the office most likely to make sure I am in the office and then ask me what I am doing? WORKING!!!!!! And then he would proceed to talk about nonsense. He would go on for 30 minutes. I would have to stop him to hang up. In the mornings it’s easier to work since he’s not there to interrupt me. So, I prefer if he doesn’t call to talk about nothing!
Am I overreacting? Maybe it’s me? I’m the person with a problem. Maybe he’s the nice guy and I am taking his faults too far?
My instincts told me to leave when He asked me to work on that first day which was the interview day! I should’ve listened to myself! I always do this and then ask myself, “where did I go wrong?”
So, that is all. Just worried about collecting my check. I worked. I want my money. But, how do I get it without his bullshit? He will ask why did I quit. I cant say your a freak! I know, not very nice of me! But this man is a person that should be avoided.
On my interview day, he had a no show. Someone got smart and felt he was not good. I need to start learning how to pick up signs of a bad boss!!
So, now what? Well, I have my weekend to think about how to pick up my payment. Since I never filled out a W4, I dont know how much he will be paying me. Tax deducted or not? Ill just see it in my check if I choose to pick it up.
In the end, I am still worked up about all this because its recent events. I am absolutely relieved I wont have him as a boss anymore.